Social Undermining
Why do we undermine others?
Is it because of competition? We want to win at all costs? Be the best at everything? Why are we so willing to step on others and hurt them just to succeed?
Do we undermine as a result of projection? Is it because we’re insecure and have to put the blame on others to feel better about ourselves?
Or are we just concerned about this person and the only way to protect or help them is by belittling them so they can’t succeed in their path?
Whatever the reason social undermining is wrong,hurtful and frustrating for the target person. The tactics used are a form of verbal abuse that contributes to psychological stress. Examples include: sarcasm, mimicry, gossip, spreading of rumors, isolation of person from others, among others. It is usually subtle so that you feel uncertain that it is actually happening.
You can find out more about how to recognize social undermining on my blog.
Social undermining can occur in different aspects of your life: at home with family, among friends and at the work place. In order to combat this you need to be able to correctly identified the signs of undermining then bring it to the attention of the person and someone in authority at home or work so action/s can be taken to stop it.
Actions can involve: ending the relationship, finding support from others, learning from it - a source of motivation to learn, and communicating with the person so that they are aware of their behavior and its effects.
Remember your emotions are your response to stimuli while your feeling are your reactions to the situation which can be changed by engaging your “thinking brain” not your “primitive brain”. This can help you deal with the psychological stress manifested from social undermining.
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